{"id":1279,"date":"2009-11-05T10:00:58","date_gmt":"2009-11-05T10:00:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.weddingdates.ie\/blog\/?p=1279"},"modified":"2015-10-23T21:31:10","modified_gmt":"2015-10-23T20:31:10","slug":"meet-the-fockerstips-on-dealing-with-the-in-laws","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/weddingdates.ie\/blog\/meet-the-fockerstips-on-dealing-with-the-in-laws\/","title":{"rendered":"Meet the Fockers&#8230;.Tips on Dealing with the In Laws"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"MsoNormal\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/weddingdates-wp-ie.s3.eu-west-1.amazonaws.com\/2009\/11\/meet_the_fockers_movie_poster.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-1280\" src=\"https:\/\/weddingdates-wp-ie.s3.eu-west-1.amazonaws.com\/2009\/11\/meet_the_fockers_movie_poster-405x600.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"405\" height=\"600\" \/><\/a><br \/>\n<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span><span>As if planning a wedding was not one of the most difficult things to do in a couple\u2019s relationship, the added stress of <\/span><strong>difficult in-laws<\/strong><span> can be extremely frustrating. \u00a0In-laws may mean well, but their ideas about your wedding may not coincide with your dream wedding. The key thing to remember in planning your dream wedding, is the simple fact it is YOUR wedding, not your in-laws.<\/span><\/span><span><span> (Easier said than done, I know!)<\/span><\/span><span><\/p>\n<p><span>Since you are going to be marrying these peoples offspring, naturally enough it is a good idea to try and keep the peace as much as possible! \u00a0If there are certain things that really do not bother you, then try and compromise with the in-laws&#8230;Giving in on one or two issues, can win you points to fight the bigger battles. It all comes down to strategy, your wedding, your rules.<\/span><span> <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Here&#8217;s a few biggies that can cause trouble when it comes to interfering in-laws:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>The topic of religion in the ceremony. Wow, that is a big one. \u00a0Many couples have to face this issue. \u00a0If your in-laws have different religious views than you and your future spouse, it does get tricky to plan a ceremony. \u00a0If you are not dead set in a specific religious ceremony, there are ceremonies that can be molded around a number of beliefs. \u00a0If you are willing, maybe try and incorporate a couple of the in-laws religious traditions into your ceremony. \u00a0You could try and appease the in-laws by including part of their religious traditions in your reception.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><span>Another big issue that comes up when planning a wedding, is the <\/span><span><strong>location<\/strong><\/span><span>. \u00a0This is usually only an issue if the couple to be married lives far away from their families. \u00a0There are several things to consider when selecting the location of your wedding. \u00a0The cost of accommodations for your guests. If it is too costly for your guests to find lodging, they will probably not be able to attend your special event. \u00a0The cost of the travel to the location is another important factor. \u00a0A fair solution is to try and plan the wedding at a half way point between in-laws.<\/span><span> <\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>The tradition of having a <strong>bride\u2019s parents pay<\/strong> for the entire wedding has pretty much been dissolved. Weddings are expensive. It is ridiculous to think one side of a union must pay for the entire cost. \u00a0A couple should discuss the cost with all parents involved and come up with a reasonable plan. Nowadays, couple\u2019s typically take on the cost of the wedding themselves. \u00a0A way to offset the costs may be the invitation for family members to sponsor a portion of the ceremony. \u00a0One family can pay for flowers, another pays for music, and so on. \u00a0This ensures all family members are a part of the wedding. However, this type of solution may lead to a lot of extra input on the planning portion of your wedding.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span>As with most things in this life&#8230;.you will not be able to please everybody, but as time goes by, hopefully they will forget the differences and move on. \u00a0It is your special day, and you should be able to do as you please. \u00a0My best bit of advice? \u00a0Put your foot down when you have to, but choose your battles wisely. \u00a0Good luck!<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"As if planning a wedding was not one of the most difficult things to do in a couple\u2019s relationship, the added stress of difficult in-laws can be extremely frustrating. \u00a0In-laws may mean well, but their ideas about your wedding may not coincide with your dream wedding. The key thing to remember in planning your dream wedding, is the simple fact it is YOUR wedding, not your in-laws. (Easier said than done, I know!) 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