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It’s no secret that when people hear of a couple’s engagement, they assume the bride will be doing all the planning. As well, it’s usually assumed that the bride has been dreaming of this day her whole life. Of course she loves her partner (duh, that’s why they’re tying the knot!) but not every woman dreams of their wedding day. Some women don’t even realise this is something they might want until the right person comes along. So, what do you do if you’re a bride who doesn’t have years of internal planning worked out in your mind? Here is a beginner non-bride’s guide to your dream wedding (that you haven’t been dreaming of!).<\/p>\n
Traditions aren\u2019t for everyone. If you\u2019re going through the motions with some of them, consider dropping the idea altogether, Maybe you don\u2019t love the idea of a \u2018first dance\u2019 or find the tradition of not seeing the groom a little silly. Either way, if you\u2019re not comfortable, don\u2019t do it. It will end up looking forced and feeling uncomfortable. Instead, consider creating your own traditions – maybe something that is a call-back to you first date or a tradition you already have in your family\/relationship. It will make it so much more unique to your story and will be a brilliant talking point for your guests too.<\/p>\n
If you are ditching a tradition, just ask yourself two questions: \u201cWill my family be disappointed?” Or “Will I be disappointed years from now?\u201d If your family is quite traditional, it may be worth sticking to some ideals or at least modifying them to suit you. Recently, I\u2019ve fallen in love with the idea of swapping out flower girls for grand parents\u2026 Isn\u2019t that just adorable? Another question to ask is to ask yourself is if you will regret it. Even Sex and The City<\/em> star Sarah Jessica Parker has admitted that she wouldn\u2019t wear black if she could do her wedding over. While some traditions may seem stuffy now, going against all of them just to be different won\u2019t feel good in later years either! Instead, tailor-make your wedding to suit your personality and story as a couple.<\/p>\n Above all, your wedding day is about you\u2026 Both of you! It\u2019s your love story and everything else should reflect that. While the clich\u00e9 is that it\u2019s all about the bride, that really isn\u2019t all that true! Yes, a lot of focus is on the bride\u2019s dress, but it\u2019s also turned to the groom, the bridal party and your reception. Your guests will appreciate being taken care of too of course. So remember to make your day about you, but in a way that can be shared and enjoyed with all your guests.<\/p>\n \u201cQuirky\u201d is a pretty popular word to describe anything from the norm here in Ireland! It can define a lot but in terms of weddings, it\u2019s a pretty loose description of anything slightly opposing a traditional theme! People often think of \u201cquirky\u201d or \u201cdifferent\u201d weddings as being creative but can also be a little imposing too. Truthfully, a lot of older generations may not understand the need for doing something a little unique and may even be a little put out by it! Remember to consider everyone\u2019s enjoyment, not just yours, when booking a supplier or venue. Will your grandmother be happy with a buffet service? Will your guests be able to dance to the band you chose? These are important factors to consider, as we mentioned earlier, it’s about you and your guests!<\/p>\nAlways Focus on You (Plural!)<\/h2>\n
You Can a \u201cQuirky\u201d Wedding, But Be Inclusive<\/h2>\n