{"id":4907,"date":"2011-11-03T08:00:13","date_gmt":"2011-11-03T07:00:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.weddingdates.ie\/blog\/?p=4907"},"modified":"2023-06-14T13:08:23","modified_gmt":"2023-06-14T12:08:23","slug":"just-be-yourself-rather-not-marriage-needs-change","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/weddingdates.ie\/blog\/just-be-yourself-rather-not-marriage-needs-change\/","title":{"rendered":"Just Be Yourself? Rather Not! Marriage Needs Change"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a title=\"Untitled by dlemieux, on Flickr\" href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/dlemieux\/4780675834\/\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/farm5.static.flickr.com\/4120\/4780675834_a1f9c19656.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"375\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Sometimes dating advice applies to marriage too. In this case it most certainly does.<\/p>\n<p>I remember talking to a very wise woman before my wedding day. She said to me: &#8216;Claire, your marriage is a third person in your lives now. It is no longer just you and Calvin; and remember what they say about three&#8230; it&#8217;s a crowd. This means that this being needs to be managed everyday from here on.&#8217; I don&#8217;t think I understood the fullness of what she was saying until a few years into my marriage and I have a sneaky suspicion that I will be mining the depths of this wisdom for years to come. The application of this &#8216;three&#8217;s a crowd&#8217; wisdom is that I need to keep changing myself to keep up with the changes in the marriage. Sound counter-intuitive? Think again&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Over at Girl&#8217;s Chase, they say that you need to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/just-be-yourself-worst-dating-advice-known-man#\">make yourself<\/a>.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Sometimes dating advice applies to marriage too. In this case it most certainly does. I remember talking to a very wise woman before my wedding day. She said to me: &#8216;Claire, your marriage is a third person in your lives now. It is no longer just you and Calvin; and remember what they say about three&#8230; it&#8217;s a crowd. This means that this being needs to be managed everyday from here on.&#8217; I don&#8217;t think I understood the fullness of [&hellip;]","protected":false},"author":55,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","_members_access_role":[],"_members_access_error":""},"categories":[17],"tags":[824],"class_list":["post-4907","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-marriage","tag-weddingdates-ie"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/weddingdates.ie\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4907","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/weddingdates.ie\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/weddingdates.ie\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/weddingdates.ie\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/55"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/weddingdates.ie\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4907"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/weddingdates.ie\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4907\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":84186,"href":"https:\/\/weddingdates.ie\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4907\/revisions\/84186"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/weddingdates.ie\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4907"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/weddingdates.ie\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4907"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/weddingdates.ie\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4907"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}