Todays blog post is from the childcare experts at www.kidzclub.ie all about having Children attend your Wedding…
A question of ongoing debate in the wedding world both for the guests and of course the bride and groom -Are you going to invite the children?
There is a lot to think about- take your time and consider all factors and make sure you and your partner are doing what you want for your perfect day.
Safety first!
Safety is a must at your wedding. If not just for peace of mind then for insurance reasons. Ensure the venue you have booked (or are considering to book) has a safe, lockable room for children on the big day. If you have already selected the venue with a child-proof room, then at least you have ticked one important box!
ALWAYS ask the venue runners if they allow children at their establishment. Some hotels/venues won’t allow this at all. Others may be swayed if you promise that the children will be supervised at all times. Do your research.
If inviting children, make sure that you make parents aware of any potential dangers near the venue such as busy roads, lakes or densely wooded areas.
The all important cost element…
Comprise a list of all the children you would invite. If the projected cost fits into your budget then you know what to do, if not then consider something more economical like smaller easy-meals on the day- request a child “rate card” from the hotel/venue manager in the area of food and seating or simply ask the parents to leave the children at home.
Alternatively, in order to take slightly from the stress and potential added cost however still inviting kids on the day; enquire as to whether or not your little guests’ parents are interested in babysitters, children’s entertainment or the setting up of a Kids’ Club. If they really want their children there, ask them to chip in with the costs. Hey presto, you have a dent-free budget and lots of quiet, happy children on the day!
Decision made- now what?
If you have decided that what you want is a child-free day, make sure this is clear from day one. Print it on the invitations and drop it into conversation when your guests are around so there is no confusion. On the other hand, the same applies if you are inviting children – whether it is a large group of children or even just a select few – avoid confusion from the get-go. A simple “Children will be welcome at the reception and ceremony” line of print will eliminate any false impressions, dreaded uproar and the “it wasn’t exactly clear” speech.
There are always other options…
Assign a” keeper” (a responsible young adult who LOVES children). Alternatively, appoint some older children (aged 10-13) to take care of the younger ones during the ceremony, speeches and meal. The children will be kept busy while being taught some responsibility (and staying in sight).
Materials for arts & crafts, games, musical activities (musical chairs etc) can be purchased cheaply and brought along on the day. Children will have something fun to do. Remember the children should be supervised at all times if using paints or any other materials.
Whatever your decision- Always remember…
A bored child is one that is likely to get into mischief therefore keeping children occupied is vital. Avoid activities and toys which can be dangerous and potentially extremely noisy such as balloons which can pose problems of bursting and causing rifts amongst children. All childcarers (should you use them) should be garda-vetted and have first aid AT THE VERY LEAST. Ensure that references are retrieved (at least two) from those you don’t know very well and if not they are not from an agency.
