It’s no secret that when people hear of a couple’s engagement, they assume the bride will be doing all the planning. As well, it’s usually assumed that the bride has been dreaming of this day her whole life. Of course she loves her partner (duh, that’s why they’re tying the knot!) but not every woman dreams of their wedding day. Some women don’t even realise this is something they might want until the right person comes along. So, what do you do if you’re a bride who doesn’t have years of internal planning worked out in your mind? Here is a beginner non-bride’s guide to your dream wedding (that you haven’t been dreaming of!).
Make Your Own Traditions!
Traditions aren’t for everyone. If you’re going through the motions with some of them, consider dropping the idea altogether, Maybe you don’t love the idea of a ‘first dance’ or find the tradition of not seeing the groom a little silly. Either way, if you’re not comfortable, don’t do it. It will end up looking forced and feeling uncomfortable. Instead, consider creating your own traditions – maybe something that is a call-back to you first date or a tradition you already have in your family/relationship. It will make it so much more unique to your story and will be a brilliant talking point for your guests too.
Some Traditions Are Worth Sticking to
If you are ditching a tradition, just ask yourself two questions: “Will my family be disappointed?” Or “Will I be disappointed years from now?” If your family is quite traditional, it may be worth sticking to some ideals or at least modifying them to suit you. Recently, I’ve fallen in love with the idea of swapping out flower girls for grand parents… Isn’t that just adorable? Another question to ask is to ask yourself is if you will regret it. Even Sex and The City star Sarah Jessica Parker has admitted that she wouldn’t wear black if she could do her wedding over. While some traditions may seem stuffy now, going against all of them just to be different won’t feel good in later years either! Instead, tailor-make your wedding to suit your personality and story as a couple.
Always Focus on You (Plural!)
Above all, your wedding day is about you… Both of you! It’s your love story and everything else should reflect that. While the cliché is that it’s all about the bride, that really isn’t all that true! Yes, a lot of focus is on the bride’s dress, but it’s also turned to the groom, the bridal party and your reception. Your guests will appreciate being taken care of too of course. So remember to make your day about you, but in a way that can be shared and enjoyed with all your guests.
You Can a “Quirky” Wedding, But Be Inclusive
“Quirky” is a pretty popular word to describe anything from the norm here in Ireland! It can define a lot but in terms of weddings, it’s a pretty loose description of anything slightly opposing a traditional theme! People often think of “quirky” or “different” weddings as being creative but can also be a little imposing too. Truthfully, a lot of older generations may not understand the need for doing something a little unique and may even be a little put out by it! Remember to consider everyone’s enjoyment, not just yours, when booking a supplier or venue. Will your grandmother be happy with a buffet service? Will your guests be able to dance to the band you chose? These are important factors to consider, as we mentioned earlier, it’s about you and your guests!
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